15 WAYS TO GIVE WORDS OF AFFIRMATION TO YOUR HUSBAND

1. Post-it Notes in his wallet – Pick up a pack of mini post-it notes at the store and every day (or just every so often) before your husband leaves, write a little note and stick it in his wallet. It could be anything from a reason you love him, to something he did that made you smile or just a heart and a smiley face. If you don’t feel very creative you can always try out the awesome printable Post-it Love Notes from The Dating Divas.

2. Email or text – Most of our electronic communication with our partners focuses on practical, utilitarian information. “Will you pick up some milk on the way home?” or “Jackie invited us to dinner on Sunday.” You have these tools at your fingertips so you might as well put them to good use to speak your partner’s love language too! Once in a while send a text or email for no other reason to say you love him or tell him how much you are looking forward to a weekend together. If you want to really up your game, check outThe Dating Diva’s 365 Love Texts!

3. Affectionate words or nicknames – When you sign off a private communication with your significant other, use affectionate language. If you’ve ever watched Seinfeld you might remember the Schmoopie episode? It might have been funny and overdone in the show, but affection has its place, especially with someone who appreciates words of affirmation. If you are not quite ready to create a brand new cuddly nickname for him, maybe just start by singing off with something simple like XO or “Hugs!”

4. Lunch time note – This is pretty similar to the post it notes in the wallet obviously, but if he has a stressful job, what a nice surprise it would be in the middle of the day to get a lift from your affirming words. All it would take is a simple note in his lunch to let him know you are thinking of him and appreciate his hard work!

5. 1 Second a Day Video – I first learned of the 1 Second a Day App (affiliate link) in a movie calledChef. In the movie, the son of the main character records one second of video every day of a trip that he takes with his dad. At the end, he uses the 1 Second a Day app to stitch them together into an incredibly sweet and memorable video. I think this would be awesome to do either using one second of video of you and your spouse together, or maybe every day you say one word to the camera that would remind you of that day. Maybe you even say a reason you love him every day. Could you imagine how happy this would make your affirmation loving spouse?!

6. Photo book – Along those same lines would be to make photo books from your experiences together.Shutterfly and other online services make this easy. You could either sit down and do it all at once or try to upload a few pictures each month and then print it when the book is full. Or you could do it a more personalized DIY “I Love Us” book that highlights some of your unique memories.

7. Journal – If you want to use good old fashioned handwriting, why not start a gratitude journal? Whether you write one sentence a day or pages of memories at a time, seeing your feelings in writing would be really special for someone who appreciates words of affirmation.

8. Mail letter – Woah. Stop the presses! Did you read that?! MAIL. A. LETTER. Remember that? You’ll need a stamp, envelope, paper and pen but I think you can manage! Don’t we all feel a little special when we receive non-junk mail especially from someone we love? Mail the letter to your spouse at work or home. It will be a great surprise and would really make his day! If you need tips on writing the perfect love letter, The Dating Divas have a great Love Letter of the Month club which gives prompts and tips on how to do it.

9. Love list – Write or type out a list of your partner’s best qualities or of the top 20 best memories you have of him. You could give it to him wrapped up, folded for his wallet, you could frame it, you could laminate it and hang in the door of the medicine cabinet. Whatever you think would be a great way for him to be able to see it often and know he is loved.

10. Message on mirror – You probably remember this one from your childhood – writing on a foggy mirror. Whether it’s drawing a heart with your initials or writing something you love about him, it is the thought that counts and he will know you’re thinking of him!

11. Affirmation appointment – Make a point to tell him one reason you love him at the same time every day. You don’t have to tell him you’re going to do it, just try to remember when you have a quiet moment, whether it’s the moment you wake up, during dinner or before bed. You could tell him a trait of his that first attracted your attention, something he did recently that you really appreciated, or just a simple “I love you.”

12. Everyday Acknowledgement – Acknowledge as many acts of service as possible with gratitude. Like I mentioned above, I like to show others that I care in my own love language by thanking them. I also really try hard to acknowledge creativity, a job well done or good ideas. If you see your spouse has come up with a genius solution to a household problem, or does something well at work or in a hobby, acknowledge that. A genuine “Thank you,” “Good job” or “Wow, nice work” can really be validating for someone with this love language.

13. High Praise – Do you ever talk with friends and family about the things you love and appreciate about your spouse? I know it can be easy to fall into the habit of venting about your differences but give some thought to ways you can spread the good news about your spouse. My husband occasionally tells me that he told his friend about something cool that I did and what his response was to hearing it. It makes me feel great to know he appreciates me so much that he tells his friends.

14. Encourage – Words of affirmation don’t always have to happen after the fact. If your husband has a big deadline coming up at work, listen to him when he talks about it and tell him you know he will do a good job. If he is worrying about something, listen and talk through the issue and encourage him as he deals with it. Tell him to have fun when he heads out to do something fun.

15. Birthday Messages – Every year for his birthday send an email, call or message friends and family reminding everyone of the big day. Ask them to leave messages on the home answering machine, send and email or other birthday wishes. You might even want to add a special request that they tell him something they like about him. And be sure that you do your best to make his birthday extra special. I really love these DIY Birthday Car Printable pack just for husbands!

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#billbrewer

I am pretty sure that a few months ago I shared with all of you the loss I went through with many of my friends for my Choir Director’s passing. It is still hard to think of him being gone due to how much he touched the hearts of people all over the world! He is how I met my husband and I will never be able to forget that!

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The choir of past, present, and future have been such a wonderful family to lean on and laugh with when thinking of all the wonderful memories of him. Music is the language that all people can understand even when they can’t hear it, they can still feel the emotion in the vibrations. Here is a poem that my friend post on Facebook today in honor of MR. B and I though you might like it! Love you Mr. Brewer!!!!!!

“Going on six months now, I still feel your presence in every note I sing, play, or hear. The wondrous words I vow, these hearts around me give me strength, when I fear.
You touched us all, each and every one. You made us stronger, in the longest run.
The Sun is brighter, my sorrows a little lighter, all because you were here. The world is better, troubled times a little lesser, especially if you were near.
Never would we think of, your pain not be enough.
The children, how they would smile, listen, and stare, all the while, our songs filled their halls for miles.
You had the beast inside, your love for music has defined, you’re ever in our minds.
From Budapest to Madrid, oh, the things that we did, sing your heart out, kid.”

-Travis Clifton

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Be the Enouagement

As a wife, it is part of my life’s goal to always make my husband happy and feel good. When others put him down, it is my job to ensure him that is is wonderful with God’s help we can do anything we put our minds to. I am his support as he is my leader. In marriage there are many different roles one must play to keep things in balance but these I find to be steadfast. I love my husband and trust him completely, but I am not always the best at showing or telling him this (one of my many shortcomings). To stay on topic of my last post, I am trying to make sure that he is one of the people that I try to make happy on a daily basis! He is my world! To help myself do this I have done something very simple but it will always remind me of the servant’s heart that I am suppose to have for him. I have made this image my screensaver on my computer!!! As soon as I did this I instantly thought of at least one time when I should have said one of the things on this list but instead chose maybe more harsher words or chose not to say anything about him at all.

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I challenge all the wives out there to do this for your husband!!! Even if he doesn’t say anything at first the love and respect you are showing him by choosing praise and love will be obvious. He will be a happier man, even if he has to warm up to the idea at first, and you will be a happier couple! Trust God always for His way is good!

Just for fun:

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Family and Holidays

This past week has been extremely busy for my family! Not only is today the 4th of July, but the 1st was my parent’s anniversary and the 2nd was my Mom’s Birthday! We did not get to get together and celebrate like we normally do because of work and such, but we still had a great time celebrating together! I wish that there was a loop hole in time where if you were celebrating a special day that the day would last longer so that everything that you want to be able to do can in reality be completed within a day’s time. If I have any space/time scientists following me, please make this happen, Thanks!!!

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Dad

As Father’s Day is approaching I am starting to think about what all my Dad does for me on a regular basis and what he has done for me through out my life. My Father goes out of his way to not only help me but also my husband, my brother, my mammaw, my pappaw, my roommate, my aunt, my mom, my brother, my sister-in-law, random people at church, etc. He is always working on something for someone. The list of cars that need some kind of work done is never ending not to mention his job, the work around his house, their new business, volunteering at church, volunteering to video football games, etc. If you ask me I would say that he needs a vacation bad! He has a heart of gold and is always willing to do what is needed as long as it isn’t illegal (or the equivalent.)

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LOVE YOU DADDY!

Need A Change

As I have said in some of my past posts, I am wanting to have a happier leave on life and therefore better mine and my husband’s life together. One of the things that I have not been able to get a grasp on is the influence that others have on us. As a Christian I do believe in the power of words and even the belief that if you think positively then more positive things will happen just because you are looking for them or see them more easily, plus the power of God of course!

All throughout mine and Daniel’s relationship we have been told by many different voices how bad we are for each other and how nothing good can come from us being together. FYI I still take offense to this. Even after 2 years of us being married nothing but negativity surrounds us. Not because of anything we do or do not do specifically, but because we choose to do things differently than the onlookers would want us to do it. Yes, we do need help. Neither one of us know that much about cars or things of that matter so we reach  out for help in that matter, but there is a lot that we don’t ask help for. Here recently we have had a lot of car issues and therefore keeping my dad on the run, but it is just temporary and we are very grateful for the help.

What I am asking for and was hoping would happen on it’s own is that mine and my husband’s lives be filled with people who are going to support and love us. Giving advice is a good thing too but do it in a positive and loving way rather than anger, hate, emotion, fed up, etc because that is what makes people not want to listen to other or even be around others. Each generation, each person is different and each person’s options in life are different. Time changes so much in so many ways and there are only a few things that can and will be constant: Love, God, Hope, Grace, Etc. God can and will provide all our needs but we would like to have family and friends too. We can keep each other happy by ourselves if we need to but interaction with others would be very nice under the right conditions (being positive, supportive, and loving).

I am beyond blessed to have a loving husband and a family that is concerned for me, but I know that there is an overwhelming amount of negativity surrounding us and I am saying NO MORE! “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength!” Philippians 4:13

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“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadows.” -Helen Keller